has anyone heard of this book? it's new and i've seen a few things floating around on the internet about it. i was talking with one of my friends yesterday who said that a book club she knew of was about to start it. so in light of the recent 'book crazes' including Harry Potter, Twilight, and Hunger Games, I though I'd just google it to see what it's all about. and what i hit upon was not just disheartening but downright offensive, perverted, and sad. it's considered to be what's called "mommy porn"...and this label was not given by the Christian realm but the secular one. Even they recognize that we (as women) tend to gravitate to the 'perfect romantic fantasy' craftily construed within our sinful hearts & minds. I read an overview of the book here and a worldly review of the book here (not for children. but it does illustrate that even the world recognizes it to be 'hardcore lady porn' and a grittier version of the "Twilight-style" literary genre so quickly becoming fascinatingly addictive to female readers of all ages). my friend (mentioned above) also said she researched it to find out if it was something she wanted to read and discovered that it contained elements of sexual bondage, manipulation, and other things I'm not going to mention on my blog. i think you get the point. for most books, it's probably wise to at least read the cliff notes before you write a 'review' of it but for this kind of book, it seemed pretty clear that this was not beneficial for my thought life, my emotions, my marriage, my walk with the Lord.
now before you think i'm just stomping on my little soapbox about godly living, please consider that the Bible kinda makes no bones about what it means to pursue holiness. it's not to 'better ourselves', to make us look better in the eyes of others, or to gain 'proper standing' before God or greater approval from Him. Now, it's about a love relationship with the Savior and a growing desire to live with His face filling our gaze. when it becomes about US, it's called 'legalism' - a gross stench in the Father's nose. But when we are walking by the Spirit, in the Word, and lifting up our hands in worship unto the Risen King, we don't want to grieve Him. We don't want to dabble in the dark evils of worldliness. We don't want to fill our hearts & minds with junk like this. yes, i said it - that book, from all appearances, is 'junk' for our souls. I don't have to read it to figure that out - just check out the link above and i think you would agree with me. perhaps this post is going to offend some of you who have read it and found it captivating or you're considering reading it due to its growing hype. I want to lovingly challenge you to just pause a moment and pray about it. that's all. not telling anyone what to do - not my place. only the Holy Spirit can do that...but are we listening?
below are a few lines from the book review link above that gave me goosebumps:
a) don't we have enough tragedy daily occurring within our world at the hands of selfish men who sodomize, victimize, enslave, rape, and ruin women because these men have perfected the art of being alluring, manipulative, and "beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating"? i mean, really. do we need to read about it as entertainment, too? i think not.
b) kinda reminds me of the enemy of our souls ~ Satan. the Word says he's clothed in light and has the appearance of an angel. He also loves to play intimidating mind games with us if we're not on guard. Proverbs 4:23 says, "above all else, guard your hearts for it is the wellspring of life."
a) romance? no, lust. suspense, perhaps. erotica? what does that mean? i didn't even want to type it in my google search engine so as not to run the risk of porn sites popping up. again, i think we all get the point.
b) it bothers me that this author (or whoever put this website together) used the word, "romance". it breaks my heart that so many young women have no clue what true romance is. the truest romance begins with a wooing of a wandering heart by a Man who proudly wears two deep scars in His palms. click HERE to read more about it. the shadowy expression of this romance is then represented in all its earthly glory between a man and a woman covenanted before a Holy God to love one another at their best, at their worst, at their lowest, through the joy & pain of life, with grace, forgiveness, steadfast loyalty, sweet friendship, and faithful (Christ-based!) commitment. Romance is the older gentleman i once heard a pastor speak of who would get up at 4am every morning, drive the long distance to his wife's nursing home with his Bible, candy, and a brush in hand. Reading to her, singing over her, stroking her hand, brushing her fine snowy hair, crying inside at her lost eyes looking straight thru him. Loving her to the very end even when she had long forgotten who he was, what he had once meant to her....yup, that's true romance gals. let's not forget it.
a) demons? no thank you. need to control? again, why do we need to read a fiction novel about a man with an insatiable need to control for entertainment. we have to be honest with ourselves and ask, 'why?' and 'will this benefit my emotions? my relationships (specifically marriage)? my heart??
b) daring? that's not daring. that's simply giving into our sinful passions & desires - being daring is crying out to a holy God who made us and passionately loves us because of His Son's perfect sacrifice on the Cross. being 'daring' is saying 'no' to elicit passions, to temptation, to affairs. that's true dare...
c) secrets? the Word says that the evil ways of man are cloaked in darkness (paraphrase). Evil directly relates to isolation, secrets, deceit, darkness.
d) her own dark desires? again, our hearts are dark & sinful enough and desperately in need of Christ's continual presence, in need of daily repentance/forgiveness. do we really need to concern ourselves with reading about a fictional character's "dark desires"?
these lines speak for themselves. got chills when i read them for the first time.
i may be wrong but, somehow, i don't think the book's main antagonist "Christian" was given that name by accident. I'm going to take it one step further...switch his names around and you get "Grey Christian". now granted, the color "gray" is spelled with an "a" but think about it...if we are honest w/ ourselves, we are fine w/ being "gray Christians" ~ not white, not black, content to fade into the background, to kinda dabble w/ the world, to be comfortable. Jesus said in Revelation 3:16 ~